Straight Up with Sherri

Thursday, May 26, 2005

Planned Parenthood Teaches 8th Graders the Art of Saran Wrap Sex?

OH, FOR PETE'S SAKE!

Saran Wrap for ‘Safe’ Teen Sex?

Janice Shaw Crouse

May 24, 2005


Years ago, the whole country got a laugh out of The Total Woman’s recommendation that wives occasionally spice things up by greeting their husbands wrapped only in Saran Wrap –– the clear, flexible plastic film meant to cover food in the refrigerator.

Today, right-thinking adults should be outraged by the recommendation in the latest “comprehensive” sex-education materials from Planned Parenthood that, for “safe” sex, 8th graders should use Saran Wrap as “protection” when engaging in oral and anal sex.

Excuse me! How did we get to the point where it must be assumed that 8th graders are going to be “performing” oral and anal sex and we have to equip them to do it “safely”? This wouldn’t have anything to do with the fact that the sex education lobby — in its supposed superior wisdom — has been pushing to strip kids as young as kindergarten age of their innocence by insisting that they be taught about every kind of deviant sexual practice long before they are emotionally ready for such information.

Why in heaven’s name should teachers be providing curious 8th graders with ever more detailed information that is bound to encourage the more adventurous or emotionally needy ones to experiment sexually? Why talk about oral and anal sex to children, period? The unspoken purpose is clear and has the fingerprints of the gay lobby and NAMBLA all over it. The FBI publishes A Parent’s Guide to the Internet. Note well how it describes the modus operandi of pedophiles: “These individuals attempt to gradually lower children's inhibitions by slowly introducing sexual context and content into their conversations.” And millions of parents are letting so-called sex-education experts do exactly this to their children in the classroom without raising any objection. Unbelievable!



And then there is a similar article by Michelle Malkin, describing the book Rainbow Party, by juvenile fiction author Paul Ruditis. The publisher is Simon Pulse, a kiddie lit division of the esteemed Simon & Schuster. The cover of the book features the title spelled out in fun, Crayola-bright font. Beneath the title is an illustrated array of lipsticks in bold colors.

A "rainbow party," you see, is a gathering of boys and girls for the purpose of engaging in group oral sex. Each girl wears a different colored lipstick and leaves a mark on each boy. At night's end, the boys proudly sport their own cosmetically sealed rainbow you-know-where – bringing a whole new meaning to the concept of "party favors."

48 Comments:

  • I'll very much agree that sex ed topics should be adjusted according to age, and 8th grade is probably much too young for the majority to go into details about individual sex acts for.
    On the other hand, the article is just too loaded with personal prejudice and phobia to be taken as serious and no mention what so ever is made as to how much is actually being said so it could be as little as a single sentence.

    Credibility is entirely lost once it gets to the point of comparing sex ed to pedophilea. Sex ed is talking about sexuality in very broad, non offensive terms and doesn't have any sexual aspect or intent to it. Preying on children does happen through desensization but the context is entirely different, here the intent is not to educate, but rather take away natural or rational resistance to what they know is a bad thing or by exposing them to vulgar and explicit talk or images.
    Unless things changed radically since I was in high school, sex ed doesn't involve anything that would even remotely compare to pornographic imagery, or what would qualify as "bedroom talk", it's simply stale and neutral information.

    If every parent could take their responsability to teach their own children about sex in general and the need to be responsable about it and adjust what, how and when they talk about it according to age and need to know, there wouldn't be any need for public sex ed, but since so many prefer to leave their children ignorant and unsafe, it's necessary.

    By Anonymous Vanessa, at 5:26 PM  

  • Vanessa

    So nice to see you again.

    Of course, we disagree. You seem to like letting the gov't (schools) take over parenting. The role of gov't schools is to educate. Math, reading, spelling, etc.

    Sex is not a SCIENCE! Not the school's role. Just because some parents fail at their job- does not mean the gov't steps in.

    As for phobia? LOL! I don't like lying- but I wouldn't call it a PHOBIA!

    The Schools have NO BUSINESS teaching OUR children these things. NONE!

    The ENTIRE GAY movement was based on "keeping gov't out of bedrooms." Somehow they seem to be MORE in my KIDS BEDROOM Than MINE NOW! Get the GAYS OUT OF MY KIDS BEDROOM! THANK YOU! They are the ones claiming to want privacy- FINE! then GIVE US OURS! GET OUT!

    By Blogger Straight Up with Sherri, at 12:07 AM  

  • I'm glad to see you got your puter problems sorted out as well. I hope it'll keep behaving from now on. :)


    I won't ever acknowledge any parent's right to keep their child ignorant about anything. If there's a certain - real and not imagined - agenda behind it, then that is wrong.
    If they'd conclude the class with handing everyone a condom and say "go crazy, there's no need to wait" or "sex will send you to hell if you don't wait" I'd have a serious problem, but that's not the case at all.

    Dragging gays into sex ed is a clear sign of homophobia so I'll stand by that. Unless sex ed classes explicitly talk about women with women and men with men, it's about sex and not sexual orientation.

    If she'd looked beyond her prejudice she would have made the natural link to the articles that sporadically come up every now and then and point out how young girls are increasingly chosing oral and anal sex as a means to either avoid possibly getting pregnant, or to "perserve" their virginity.

    I think that's a problem in itself for many reasons, mostly because to me it conjures up the "I don't want to have sex, but I'll do that and he'll be happy and then I won't have actually had sex yet" peer pressure problem.

    Beyond all that, they're far more likely to be conditioned by a culture that knowingly or not, sexualizes young girls to both their own peers and to adults.
    There's no need for any teen to looks, act or be "sexy" but the pressure is there anyway, and it's not a result of being taught about sex.

    By Anonymous Vanessa, at 10:00 AM  

  • Sorry Vanessa, but I have to agree with Sherri on this one. Why is it that the government has soooo much control of our lives now? I certainly do not want the government to decide for me when it's time to discuss oral sex methods!!!!!! The government does not have the right to enter my children's bedroom-PERIOD!
    CM2056

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:57 PM  

  • I do not believe that 8th graders or below need to be taught details of these sex acts or even the actual topics discussed, but I believe that in light of the very real truth that 8th graders and below are engaging in some type of sexual acts, I believe sexual education should be taught in accordance with what parents have already explained to their children. This should be coordinated by parents and teachers at PTA meetings and the such. Explain the seriousness of disease, parenthood, etc., but definitely not the "art of saran wrap sex!"
    VEM2793

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:00 AM  

  • awww kids are learning safer ways to have sex what a friggen crime lets just allll keep it a big secret, better yrt lets lock them in a room till they are 18 yeah thats better

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:03 AM  

  • Why not let Planned Parenthood teach them that adultry is okay? Why not let the gov't schools teach children that those against group sex are just religious zealots that think sex is evil.

    THIS IS NOT GOV'T REIGN! PERIOD!

    Vanessa- for someone who claims to HATE labels- why use the homophobe BS? Teaching my child about sex is MY job! NOT THE GOV'T!

    I know a woman down the street that teaches her FIVE yr old daughter that masterbation is way cool- just do it in private. It is just physical gratification- like chocolate or lollipops. No prob- play with yourself all day long- just do it in private. The lesson being time and place, here. But the entire "lesson" on sex and masterbation is just that it is a physical gratification thing- but time and place are th issue.

    I am still working on teaching my children about time and place when it comes to dinner time and nap time for PETE'S SAKE! FIVE yr olds don't have the maturity to handle certain info and transfer it into the proper context. Now- it is HER business what she teaches her child. But see- her little girl no longer can play at our house. WHY? Cause her little angel decided to rally the kids in the bedroom and start daring them to pull down their pants. (ages 3-6)

    Funny- her mom calls me to tell me that her child LEARNED THIS from MY DAUGHTERS. Hmmmmm- amazingly enough- this same child had the same type episode with her daughter TWO YEARS AGO with another child.

    And her daughter had the SAME episode EVEN BEFORE THAT at a child care center- so she pulled her daughter FROM that center- and TO THIS DAY has issues trying to find "care" for her child when she works.

    Right away- chatting with a friend about this- I was ACCUSED of teahcing my children that sex is bad! LOL! PAHLEEEZE! I don't teach my children that sex is bad- I teach them that it is SPECIAL!!!

    Teach your kids what you want. I will teach mine as I CHOOSE AND SEE FIT! BUT THE GOV'T NEEDS TO STAY OUT OF MY BEDRROM- MY PARENTING (unless neglect and/or abuse occurs and they need to protect my children) AND OUT OF MY KIDS' BEDROOM!!!!

    NO "UNNATURAL FEAR" (phobia) JUST A CLEAR VOICE IN MY RIGHTS AS A PARENT TO TEACH MY OWN VALUES TO MY CHILD- NOT YOURS OR ANYONE ELSE'S!

    These gov't schools can't even teach READING SUCCESSFULLY! HISTORY SUCCESSFULLY- let alone MORALS AND SEX!

    BOTTOM LINE-- NOT THEIR ROLE!

    By Blogger Straight Up with Sherri, at 2:26 PM  

  • I am livid! What school authority figure is permitting this type of teaching to occur in the elementary and middle schools? Haven't we given gays and lesbians enough rights. Do your own thing and leave what the norm does alone. What is the hidden agenda here? 8th graders should be learning how to be superb socialists and respect the norms of society.

    tj1625

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:19 PM  

  • Sex ed. has been going on for years and years. If you are as good a parent as you think you are then it does not matter what the schools teach kids because they should listen to what you say. I think your fear is that your kids wont listen to you. home school your kids if you think it is that bad!!!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:55 AM  

  • P.S. If it isnt YOUR school teaching it then leave it alone. what gives you or I the right to tell a school in another state what they can teach? It is up to the parents in that school zone to say not you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:57 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    There is a severe problem with your latest logic. Local school districts have become meaningless. First, there is the U.S. Department of Education (a new construct that should just be abolished because it has no reason to exist and it is unconstitutional). All it does is usurp the power of Constitutionally created local school districts with unfunded mandates. Second, there are activist judges who unilaterally annoint themselves lords and masters over the populace - often controlling the educational system. Third, there are political entities, such as the NEA that abuse the educational system to enhance their own political power.

    As soon as you may convince me that the parents in any school district have the power to say what should be taught there, I will listen. Until then, I must agree that the most promising recourse is for all Americans to apply pressure.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 1:47 AM  

  • I dont want any paernt in some other school disrict to tell me what mine should teach that is what i am saying if i disagree i will goto the media or pta or whatever it takes just stay out of my district.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:58 AM  

  • Why are most of you so anti govenment? if you dont like the way it is here why not move to chine or russia or japan?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:12 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    Why are most of you so anti govenment? if you dont like the way it is here why not move to chine or russia or japan?

    Are you having trouble concentrating? First, you say you want the local people to control. When the government takes that control away from you, you encourage it! Then, other people who want to help you restore your own power become your enemies. What made this country great is a collection of Constitutions whose sole purpose is to limit the power of government. Governments will always do everything in their bag of tricks to acquire more power; I recommend the collected works of Thomas Jefferson who explains this quite well. This power-grab is what we "anti-government" individuals are opposed to. China is run by an oligarchical Communist politburo - exactly what we oppose. Russia is run by criminal gangs, since the breakup of the Soviet Union; another prospect we seek to avoid. And Japan is a localized democracy, just with incredibly limited individual rights and protectionism for corporate criminals. So what is your point? You confuse me.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 2:29 AM  

  • I don't want other people out of my district to tell me what my school should teach. I dont mind the government teaching what they see fit. But if I and others in my district don't agree then I think we should let them know and try and change it. NOT someone from another state or district. People here say nothing but bad things about the government. But you cant keep everyone happy. sex ed is sex ed. If you dont like what your school does (not some other school) then goto a pta meeting or the EVIL media. First find out if you have enough support.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:37 AM  

  • I just dont see why those who hate the goverment so much stick around here. All they do is bitch. If you dont like the schools why noy home school?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:39 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    I dont mind the government teaching what they see fit.

    It seems to me that you are the one who desires a tyrannical government that permits you absolutely no voice. You don't want to be a citizen, you apparently wish to be a subject of an all powerful state (such as China).

    But if I and others in my district don't agree then I think we should let them know and try and change it.
    The point is that the government doesn't care what you think! You can't change it locally while there is national pressure to stop you from having any control.

    NOT someone from another state or district.
    I repeat my challenge - show me that you can! Just one example. What most people fear is control by a centralized power structure. Each local district that gets squished is more centralized power. We must all hang together or surely we will hang alone. You don't solve the problem of usurpation of power by cooperating with the government - DUH!

    If you dont like what your school does (not some other school) then goto a pta meeting or the EVIL media.
    The PTA is wimpy, powerless busy-bodies. They have no power, either constitutionally or pragmatically. The media may or may not be supportive of your cause, but they have no power to control centralized government.

    First find out if you have enough support.
    You don't! Unless you are associated with at least 100 million other Americans - something you seem opposed to.

    I just dont see why those who hate the goverment so much stick around here. All they do is bitch. If you dont like the schools why noy home school?
    We stick around because it our country, not the government's. If you had bullies at school, would you remove your kids? If you had gangs running your neighborhood, would you just move to a worse neighborhood? If your family was threatened, would you just let the criminals have their way with the others and flee alone by yourself?
    The schools are our schools. The public schools are designed to run by intent of the parents, not by the intentions of some bureaucrat in Washington, some activist judge, some ACLU lawyer, some lobbyist for the NEA, some representative of NAMBLA, PlannedParenthood, or GLAD. For someone who seems so interested in having power over your schools, you sure don't realize that you have none!

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 3:01 AM  

  • you are hopeless you dont have a clue what i am saying at all you are to blind to see anything. all you see is bad bad government. yes i want them to teach what they see fit then try and change it if i disagree. you have no hope no fight.
    You can't change it locally while there is national pressure to stop you from having any control.
    Wrong!! If enough parents get together to try and stop a certain teaching yes they would stop. I would try if i disagree do what I can. If i lose then I lose but saying you cant win ohhh well. what good does that do? smaller scale but there are schools who have taken out soda machines because of pressure from others not because they give a rats ass but enough people wanted it so sopmre have done so. just sitting there saying there is nothing i can do is nuts.
    If you had bullies at school, would you remove your kids? If you had gangs running your neighborhood, would you just move to a worse neighborhood? If your family was threatened, would you just let the criminals have their way with the others and flee alone by yourself?
    NO! you try and change it not sit around saying, I cant stop it. if you cant changes it then yes you do go if it is bad enough.
    The schools are our schools
    I agree but why do you want to complain about what some other school does in some far away state? let them deal with it.
    Who should tell the schools what to teach? you and sherry? what if the parents in that district are ok with it?
    the schools have taken a little more control of what our kids are taught and thats because to many parents have failed!!
    LIke i said if you as good a parent as you think you are then your kids will listen to you anyway not the the saran wrap sex so the point is mute.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:18 AM  

  • http://www.connexion.org/newsstory.cfm?id=810&returnurl=news.cfm
    read this

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:31 AM  

  • http://www.agi-usa.org/pubs/journals/3018898.html

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:37 AM  

  • http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/RRR/mythsfacts.htm
    very good read

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:44 AM  

  • http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/RRR/video.htm

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:46 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    I certainly applaud your conviction. It is always necessary to do what you can. I believe I understand what you are saying completely. I just think you are incredibly naïve. You miss the significant issue that what the government sees fit is never your best interest. Local governments are somewhat under control of the citizenry because there is a modicum of power balance. If you don't like them, you can remove them from office. But you can't do that to national bureaucrats, power-brokers, and tyrannical judges. They have millions of times more power than you do.

    I have made no attempt to tell you what your local schools should teach. I believe this is a local issue. The nature of the original article posted by Sherri is that your local parents have not chosen this curriculum; it was foist upon them by nationally syndicated power structures over which they have no control. How do you fight that? Well, in Maryland, another national power slinger, a normally activist judge, took a constitutional tack to rule that the school district could not discriminate against one religion while supporting others. Why mention this? - because, the parents, no matter how good intentioned and united, lack the power to change it themselves!

    We are not talking about soda machines; we are discussing mind control!

    You say you would fight the bullies, the criminals, and thugs. Yet you refuse to fight these exact same people when they call themselves the government?

    Kids are impressionable. They trust the schools to teach the correct material - even though they may challenge the authority of the school administrators. For you to use the excuse that some parents have failed is a cop-out. Just because some parents do not do a good job, does not permit the schools to do whatever they see fit. This was a tactic of the Stalinist regime during the 1930's to 1950's era. Again, I question your adamant support of totalitarian govenments of brutal repression and brainwashing!

    The question regarding whether our kids would listen to us is beyond the scope of the article and consequent discussion. These are 8th graders! In most responsible parents' viewpoint this is way too young to be dealing with these issues at any level. For a local school to stomp on these parents' rights to mold the morality of their own children is evil. It is not fair to these children (at the age of 13 or 14) to put them between the hammer and the anvil. What are you thinking?

    If the parents are okay with it, let them request it. If you read the article, you will find that it is bureaucrats, lobbyists, lawyers, and purveyors of evil in other far-away States that have thrust this upon the little kids - not their parents or local movers & shakers!

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 3:50 AM  

  • Something to Learn:
    Sex Ed in Europe
    Versus in the United States

    Melissa Harris, WireTap March 19, 2002
    During the summer of 1998, immediately following my graduation from high school, Teen People sent me on a two week tour of Europe. It was an exciting trip, but I didn't go as a tourist. I was joined by 42 American "experts" (writers, students, educators, clinical workers, activists, politicians and clergy) and we were all there to examine the European approach to teen sexuality.

    European policies and programs have dramatically lowered teen birth, sexually transmitted disease and abortion rates. The annual European Study Tour, sponsored by Advocates For Youth, a non-profit organization that focuses on preventing teen pregnancy and HIV, and paid for by the Kaiser Family Foundation, encouraged participants to look deeply into why U.S. teen sexual health rates are among the worst in the world.

    Coming from a conservative, religious, suburban Ohio background, I saw things that shocked and surprised me. But, looking back, I realize that the trip spurred a series of important changes in my perspective that still affect who I am today. You could say the trip was my own little sexual revolution. While traveling through the Netherlands, Germany and France, I discovered that I was part of the problem. I hadn't conceived a child, or contracted an STD, or even had sex. But I was afraid to talk about it, afraid to accept my own sexuality as natural and healthy. In my journal on the first day I remember writing "It's all about sex! I despise talking about my sexuality with people other than my closest, closest friends. I hope no one asks me to 'reveal a personal experience.' I will probably vomit before I say anything."

    Of course, I wasn't alone in these feelings. Most Americans don't talk about sex. Slowly, as I heard personal stories from other study tour participants, I started to see that it wasn't so difficult.

    Many of people we met with in Europe told us about the open dialogue they maintained with their children. In fact, parents were often among the first people Dutch children told when they became sexually active. When Doortje Brachen's daughter became sexually active, she says she was, "Thrilled. I asked her whether she enjoyed it." Doortje was a presenter on the trip from the Rutgers Foundation, which was founded in the early 1980s by the Dutch government. Its mission is to provide special services for adolescents, reproductive care to the public and sexuality education.

    ***

    When the Dutch experienced their sexual revolution after WWII, they never looked back. From the perspective of a 17-year-old suburban teen from Ohio, sex pervaded Amsterdam's culture. In the Red Light District there was legal prostitution, a Sex Museum, a Condom Museum and "coffee shops." And then there were four blocks of scantily clad women sitting in shop windows lined with red neon. Although some of these kinds of places surely exist in America, I had never seen them before, and I was left feeling very curious, and a little disturbed.

    But outside of Amsterdam, the cultural differences are more subtle. During the trip, we interviewed teens and families in restaurants and cafes. We also spoke with ministers, doctors, government officials and sex educators. I noticed that the same type of activism surrounding abstinence in America wasn't present in the Dutch or European rhetoric. Many of the people we interviewed, including one minister, saw the differences as tied to religion. About 25 percent of Dutch residents report practicing their religion, compared to 44 percent of Americans who say they attend church regularly. The priest I spoke with said he still encouraged youth to abstain, but admitted there was little if anything he could say or do to make teens follow his advice.

    But there's more to it than religious differences. In 1968, more than half of Dutch adults disagreed with the statement, "Sex is natural -- even outside marriage." In 1981, this number dropped to 24 percent. In a Dutch sex survey conducted in 1990, the researchers didn't even bother to ask the question. The sale of condoms in vending machines was approved in 1969, legalized abortion in 1981 and contraceptives were covered by national health insurance by 1971.

    Parents begin talking with their children around 10 or 11, and not just once. There's no "talk"; it's a dialogue. Girls report taking oral contraceptives around age 16, even if they aren't sexually active. And in school, they start learning about their body and how it works as young as age 5. In high school, they talk about sexual responsibility, using a condom, birth control pills or both, a practice they call the "Double Dutch" method. The strategy is to give youth a lot of information. Information based upon research and statistics, and then to trust them to use it.

    In another journal entry, part way through my time in the Netherland I wrote "We watched a prime time television show that aired at 7 p.m. It included people using a banana to explicitly show how to put on a condom, and it was was paid for by the government..."

    Because it's so open, experts and the government are able to harness the power of the media. The media campaigns run by non-governmental organizations using public funds are evidence of the cultural attitudes that pervade Dutch culture. Advertisements like this were also present in Germany and in France. France, however, focuses almost all of their media work on AIDS/disease prevention. This is because France is predominantly Catholic, and Paris has the highest rate of AIDS transmission in Europe. Their media campaigns are less strategic than the Dutch or German ones, but are still more extensive than the U.S.

    Beginning in 1987, the Dutch government began supporting strategic campaigns supporting safe sex. The campaigns of 1989-1991 focused on excuses for not using condoms, ranging from "It can't happen to me" to "I don't need a condom because I only sleep with decent girls." The theme was "I'll have safe sex or no sex." Other messages included "Be proud of having safe sex," and "Step 1: You fall in love. Step 2: She feels the same. Step 3: You kiss. Step 4: You use a condom." Later campaigns included, "STDs are available somewhere near you. Condoms are, too," "I'll take something off if you put something on," and "Your condom or mine?"

    These ads didn't run on television at 2 a.m. They ran during prime-time, on posters and billboards in bus and train stations, on streets, in pharmacies and other public places. They were appealing, funny, and definitely trendy. They would be perfect for America's MTV audience. They don't stress fear or shame, or place blame. They clearly targeted sexually active people with one message: If you're having sex, do it safely.

    My experiences in the Netherlands, Germany and France show that young people can act responsibly if they have the information and skills to either delay sexual intercourse or protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and STDs. The average age of first intercourse in the United States is 15.8. In the Netherlands, it's 17.7.
    And as a result, 85 percent of Dutch teens use protection at first sexual intercourse-46 percent use condoms alone, 13 percent use oral contraceptives, and 24 percent use "Double Dutch."

    Simply put, sex in the Netherlands, Germany and France is a public health issue, not a moral one. It's about protecting your partner and protecting yourself.

    ****


    Three years after I returned to America, my friend Sara became pregnant. She was 20 years old. I watched her deal with the typical responses from her community. Sentiments like: "It won't happen to me," and "If she would have only gone to church," and I couldn't help but wonder if she would have been provided with more information or more open and understanding parents, would this have happened?

    Sara was not a stereotypical young mother. She graduated from a waspy, suburban high school, in the top 20 percent of her class. While in high school she was an active athlete, she attended church regularly, and she even waited until after graduation to have sex.

    Sara's sex education was as minimal as my own (until I traveled to Europe.) Five hours during the sixth grade, and 15 hours during our seventh-grade health class. Although we were told what a condom was and provided with accurate information about its effectiveness, we were never shown how to use it.

    This is puzzling, considering the fact that almost half of all high school students in this country have sex by the time they graduate from high school. And every year nearly 900,000 teenage girls become pregnant.

    As policymakers in the United States debate sex education in schools, too few seem willing to face the truth about teen mothers. The familiar rationales used to explain the "Sara's" of the world aren't good enough. They don't speculate about love, or the difficult choices young women face when making decisions. They forget that it feels good to be accepted even if you're not the smartest or the most beautiful, that it feels good to experience pleasure. They don't address the fact that in some American public schools, unlike in most of Europe, there is only one allowable day of HIV education. They don't consider the impact of substance use. They don't take into account that free protection isn't available on street corners or in public bathrooms or public schools.

    And they don't ever include images of safer sex in movies or on TV. Think about it, when was the last time you saw a condom appear in a love scene? I often wonder: Does James Bond wear a condom?
    Sex in the Netherlands, Germany and France is a public health issue, not a moral one. It's about protecting your partner and protecting yourself.
    I don't know whether he does or not, but I do know that many Americans' perceptions about sex are badly skewed. The debate surrounding sex education in America often involves two different approaches: a comprehensive approach to sexuality education that includes messages about both abstinence and contraception, and an abstinence-only-until-marriage approach that censors information about contraception. I'm for the first approach. This combination comes close to matching the European model. It borrows from them the idea of an open, honest, medically-accurate dialogue, but it also takes into account some of the American cultural norms that don't exist in Western Europe.

    The average age of first marriage in this country is now around 26. If we tell all young people that they can't have sex until they are married, we are ignoring the fact that more than 90 percent of couples do not wait and some may never marry. We cannot control the choices other teens make, but we can control the knowledge we have, the skills we learn to delay or protect, and the support we give them to take control of their own lives.

    In order to accomplish this, youth need a new national dialogue about sex based on rights, respect and responsbility. We need to talk openly with youth about values, morality and sexual health. We need to act to put honest, realistic sexuality education in our schools, not keep young people in the dark. Finally, we have to trust youth to use that information and guidance to find their OWN way to do that.

    My experiences in the Netherlands, Germany and France show that young people can act responsibly if they have the information and skills to either delay sexual intercourse or protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and STDs. The average age of first intercourse in the United States is 15.8. In the Netherlands, it's 17.7.

    As for me? I've done a lot of growing since I traveled to Europe. I've tried to shed my judgments, my negativity and my fear. I don't blame Sara, nor have I abandoned her. Unfortunately, though, she lives in a society where sex and being a sexual person is filled with shame, guilt and fear tactics. But I'm trying to change that, trying to empower youth to create an open dialogue about sex based upon respect not shame, ridicule or guilt.


    Source: http://www.alternet.org/wiretapmag/story.html?StoryID=12644

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:51 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    So you're saying you want to move to the socialist societies of Europe? Fine. Just don't force them upon us. When the American people wish to demand socialism, they will. Why must socialism and communism always be forced upon people by tyrants? That should tell you something, shouldn't it.

    That was a really neat set of anecdotes. But it doesn't mean anything. Those who wish to prove their own ideology can always find support somewhere.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 4:00 AM  

  • We are not talking about soda machines; we are discussing mind control!
    wow you do need help lol

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:03 AM  

  • the #s dont lie they are much better off by talking about sex in schools and homes .much lower pregnancy stds and so on. not by trying to hide it but by talking about it at school and early on.
    MUCH MUCH lower #s.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:06 AM  

  • the #s dont lie they are much better off by talking about sex in schools and homes .much lower pregnancy stds and so on. not by trying to hide it but by talking about it at school and early on.
    MUCH MUCH lower #s.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:06 AM  

  • THey have MUCH MUCH MUCH lower #s of teen pregnancy and stds and so on because they talk about it early and often and in schools early and often yes we should talk more about it to kids in schools and homes. check the #s they dont lie!!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:12 AM  

  • THey have MUCH MUCH MUCH lower #s of teen pregnancy and stds and so on because they talk about it early and often and in schools early and often yes we should talk more about it to kids in schools and homes. check the #s they dont lie!!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:13 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    wow you do need help lol

    Perhaps I do, you are certainly not the first to suggest this!
    On the other hand, I perceive you to be a victim of mind control already.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 4:13 AM  

  • Those who wish to prove their own ideology can always find support somewhere.
    lol thats sherry to a T

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:14 AM  

  • Anonymous,
    the #s dont lie

    I made a fine living years ago making numbers lie for the government. Of couse the numbers lie!

    I will use statistics and illustrative anecdotes to support my own conjectures. However, I do not use these to force policies upon other people. There are two guiding authorities in my life: God and Constitutions. With these in hand, I really don't need anecdoctal, and highly suspect, statistics from socialist states. Even if the statistics on pregnancy and STD are lower (which I doubt, because I know how the Europeans distort stats), there would be no way to associate this with education and information as you do.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 4:22 AM  

  • lol there is no hope for you. you see things as you please no matter what anyone shows you. God himself could tell you that you are mistaken and you would say it was the devil lol bye

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:30 AM  

  • We all see things as we please. That is the nature of being human.

    By Blogger Right Wing Nut Job, at 4:35 AM  

  • Eep. This got way out of hand. :(

    Sherri-I certainly don't think it's alright to give "how to" guides to children, no matter what their age is and the situation you cited is clearly wrong. But teaching how to engage in sexual activity is not what sex ed is about.

    I also didn't say you were homophobic, I said the author of the article clearly was. First she claims that oral and anal sex are being mentioned due to gay lobbying, only to go on and talk about those acts being practiced in a heterosexual context which is a total non sequitur and completely undermines her argument.
    Other pieces she wrote display the same disdain and prejudice so I don't see how the "label" is wrong.

    By Anonymous Vanessa, at 2:33 PM  

  • TB9131
    I do think sex education in school is necessary. However, is 8th grade to young? In my opinion I think so, but when I look around at the age that children and I did say children are having sex, I beg to differ. I however feel it's my place as a parent to talk about sex with my children. I do believe that there are parents who will never bring up the topic with their children. So in this case, the school becoming involved is a good idea. I think though that we are giving the school system to much responsiblilty in what our children should and shouldn't know. We must as parents take back being a parent and not leave it up to the education system to teach our kids about everything. And as for the saran wrap that is just going way to far.
    TB9131

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:31 PM  

  • We have to understand that many in society believe that the government schools know what is right for their children. Well, if that the case, it is the right of that individual to permit the government to lecture their child about sex. But I for the most part am disappointed about this tendency. We won’t allow religion but we will allow sex. Some people just need to get it together and allow the parent to educate their child about sex.

    By Blogger BF7193, at 6:15 PM  

  • Sex ed is not for the schools to teach but alot of kids don't have a choice because their parents don't teach it to them. If a school does plan to teach it though, I believe they need to stick to the science part of it and urge the kids to speak to their parents should they want more information.

    I remember being a teenager and I can't even imagine doing some of the stuff mentioned, like a rainbow party. What happened to respecting your body and modesty? I would have been mortified to even be at a party like this. Again I think alot of this stems from the lifestyle at home.

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